There is a bright side to everything. When you're traveling through the dark tunnel of a catastrophic life event, you may not agree. You may say or hear things such as, "There can't possibly be a bright side to this". There is a bright side, however.
The catastrophic life event my family experienced, brought us closer together. I am 10 years younger than my brother and 12 years younger than my sister, so to become closer to them is quite life-altering.
This event caused me to become a stronger person.
This event caused me to have a greater capacity for acceptance of others.
This event caused our friends to come closer together as a community.
This event has allowed me to have a perpetual 8 year old niece. I can count how often I've heard people say, "I wish they wouldn't grow up". My niece has never committed any adult mishaps. She will always be the bubbly, giggly, squirmy 8 year old who never offends anyone, who never sits still, who never has the opportunity to worry about her mortgage, who never needs to be terribly concerned if her responsibilities aren't met. She is my perpetual 8 year old.
These may seem like bones. They certainly do not make up for the life she could have had. But a bright side is what we often need to be able to cope and get through that dark tunnel.
Try to see whatever bright side you can. Try to make it count. The little things are often more necessary than the big things, so don't expect the bright side to be better than what should have been, it is simply a way to look at life on the other side of the tunnel.
Hang on to your bones, don't let them go. Each one has great meaning and all of them put together will allow more light in your life. Each of my bones taken separately are very valuable. When I put them together, I can smile.
Try to SMILE it will help.
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